MyRye.com's social scene columnist Pamela Baur says: Say It Out Loud!
As I was walking in Port Chester the other night, a guy jogged past me, and as he passed he said “happy new year” then continued on his way. I kept walking, and looked over my shoulder twice in notation and pleasant surprise by his sharing of good wishes, and what I saw, as his choice to say out loud exactly the thought crossing his mind.
His gesture to extend new year’s wishes to me, a simple passerby, got me thinking about how often we think things and choose not to open our mouths and say what we’d like to say, (sometimes even need to say).
Right now you may be thinking “so what?” or “I say what I need to say”, you know, having a conversation with that little voice in your head…the voice that just said “what voice?”, yes that one!
Well, I mention this because what happens by listening to that voice, and keeping our mouths shut is… absolutely nothing. Moments come and go, and in each moment, we either allow ourselves to say how we feel and what we think or we don’t. What I’ve found, and what was reconfirmed for me in that moment the jogger wished me a happy new year, is what a difference is made in ordinary moments simply by allowing our thoughts to pass our lips and be shared with someone in a genuine way.
Even more surprising, for example in terms of relationships, what happens when we allow our honest thoughts to be shared with someone we care for, sometimes in the face of being afraid of looking bad or being vulnerable – turns out not to be so scary and makes for a memorable impression, an honest moment; aren’t we all looking for that?
In those honest moments of authentically sharing intentions, thoughts, and feelings, even the simplest ones, creates the possibility for, well, anything. It’s the idea to simply put it out there, (whatever it happens to be) in the moment you think it with no real attachment to the outcome. Being in the presence of someone genuinely giving of themselves has certainly given me the space and comfort to do the same.
Say your thoughts out loud, even if they seem unreasonable or you’re afraid of looking silly, you may just find your thoughts and feelings actually make a positive impression to others and even become clearer to you.
It’s much more fun to be clear and outside of your head in memorable moments than having the thoughts bounce around in a swirling conversation in your mind—of course resulting in nothing.
…so, with that I say to you, happy new year!…and pass it on!