Mary Crawford Rubens passed away at home on October 28, 2026, after a short illness, at the Osborn in Rye, NY.
Her three children survive her: Molly (Doug) Nunnelly, Peter (Peggy) Rubens, David (Debra) Rubens; nine grandchildren: Laurie Breen (Keith), Matthew Nunnelly, Kimberly Rubens, Peter Daniel Rubens, Thomas Rubens, Nellie Praetzel, Caroline Praetzel, Michael Rubens, Tori Proctor (John); and three great-grandchildren: Lily Breen, James Breen & Eli Proctor. We also extend a special tribute to family members Linda Haynes and McDonald O’Mar Nelson. Mary was predeceased by her husband, Charles (Carky) Rubens II, and her eldest son, Charles Rubens III.
Mary was born in Indianapolis, IN, to Dr. Robert and Margaret (Selby) Crawford. She grew up in Burlington, Iowa, and relocated to Highland Park, IL, after marrying Carky, the love of her life. They followed Carky’s career at Time Inc. to Scarsdale, NY, where they raised kids, retired, and traveled the world. She was always the consummate wife, mother, and hostess. A graduate of Colorado College, she had varied interests and many talents. She loved her garden, flower arranging, and entertaining. She was an avid crafter, succeeding at jewelry-making, knitting, needlepoint, and clay. She loved singing, playing the piano and guitar, and especially ’60s folk music. Carky and Mary loved the theater, museums, and travel. She touched all seven continents! She was never bored. As her children grew up, she worked at Lillian Vernon Country Store and ran The Teacher’s Room in White Plains and from her basement in Scarsdale. She was the most widely and best-read person we knew. Her pointed curiosity and generous spirit were appreciated by all.
We will announce a celebration of life shortly. Family may be contacted by email at cyberdale18@gmail.com. She would love to be remembered by a donation to the NY Botanical Garden.
